My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years. We had a daughter 12 weeks ago and I have two boys from a past relationship but they call him dad cuz we were going to get married. We've been having problems for about 4 months off and on. I caught him responding to post and putting up posts on craigslist for escorts. The killer is he responded to one 6 days after I had our baby. He says he does it for the thrill of conversation and to look at pics..right??? Anyways I felt our relationship was heading down the tubes so I started keeping money aside just incase. He found out and I lied to him about it. The money really should've gone toward paying off some bills. So he's made that I've lied and in his eyes stole money from him because it should've went elsewhere. I got frustrated and moved out to my parents with the three kids. Im regreting my decision and I really want things to work but he wont give me the time of day to talk or work on things. Am I really in the wrong?? Should I really try working this out with him?? How do I get him to realize Im human and I make mistakes?? I need quick advice I haven't been able to sleep, eat or function for that matter. My kids are hurting because Im hurting. Please help me make the right decision.
PS some of out fighting too was because I asked him to help me out more with the family and kids but because he worked a hard physical job and I stayed home with the kids he felt I should do more while at home...I tried explaining to him you have two jobs once you become a parent..one is to bring home a paycheck and the other is the family.
Answer by Chopsmom
Firstoff......Your bf is a JERK......Craigslist is a Pimp Site......and don't believe he is not meeting those women.......The THRILL is the sex....not just chatting up someone...he could do that on a chat site.
He paid money to post and dont think he has not met them and had sex with them. DON'T LET HIM put the monkey on your back...he is in the wrong and you have every right to try and protect yourself and your children. Do you want to pick up some disease? Do you want to stay with a man that lies to you and cheats on you?? And wastes money on Whores??? Because that is the type of man you have with him.
Move on.....cut your losses and get your head on straight FOR YOUR KIDS. Force him to pay the child support...stay with your parents as long as you can..that gives your children some stability.
Show your children that you are to be respected and CHERISHED.
DO NOT MARRY THAT MAN...Doesn't sound like he is the least bit sorry for his behavior....and as far as you know, he could have a history of this which could actually be a Sex Addiction...it's pretty common and anyone on Craigslist is not joking around.
Don't try working this out with him......let him come to you...if he doesn't ......then you KNOW what a CREEP he really is. Unless he gets into counseling and addresses his issues and shows a new behavior and committment to you and your kids..MOVE ON and don't look back!!! YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER.
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