Okay. Here it goes..
I'm a guy, 24 yrs old, single (just broke up with my ex that time) and as I started working for this company I applied in, my lady boss who is such a good people person started to chat with me at work most of the time.
We seemed like we have a lot in common and share the same values and thoughts in life. In a month or so, we became good friends. After a night of dinner to discuss work, I walked her to her car and out of nowhere, I just asked her ' Can I hug you?" of course she said "yes" so I did. Then I followed it with "can I kiss you?" without answering, she moved her lips close to mine and we kissed. It was a sweet night for me. Or maybe even for her.
The following night, shortly after work, both of us met in a restaurant and she laid her cards on the table. I never expected what she was going to say to me. But these were her words.. "You know, you're such a great guy to be with..and I think I'm falling for you. But I want you to know that I have three kids already.
I used to be married with their dad but we broke it off 5 years ago. We're not annulled yet because it's really expensive but i'm filing it soon. (from where i live, we don't have divorce because its a catholic country.)
My kids live with their dad and I just visit them every often. I just want to lay my cards on the table so we can tackle this head-on while we're still new." At first, I was surprised and didn't know what to say. As brave as I thought I was, I replied " of course it doesn't matter! Just because you have kids, it doesn't mean nobody can love you anymore.' She was thrilled to hear that. That night ended in a hotel room with the both of us making love....passionately.
That was the start of our relationship together. Days, weeks and months have passed, spending time together in restaurants, movies, taking 2 hour to 5 hour trips across the country and just having fun together. We would spend most of the weekends with her kids and surprisingly, her kids like me.
But there are times when I spend time with them, and I would remember her ex husband and get so jealous and frustrated about it. I would just try to get over that fact and enjoy my time with them.
Now, its been 2 years since our relationship started, i'm now 26, she's now 32. We have been traveling a lot during the years we're together, we've air traveled to 4 provinces in our country and had so much fun staying in resorts and discovering different food together. We have been to 6 different international countries some of them we went three times because we just couldn't get enough.
I love doing everything with her. We both enjoy each others company whether traveling, working or just lying in bed doing nothing at all. But even after 2 years of continuous bonding, the thought of her having an ex husband and realizing I would have to deal with him for the rest of my life bugs me so much. Realizing that her kids might not like me when they get older or they wouldn't show me respect because i'm not their father.
I love my girl a lot and so are her kids but as years keep on passing, my anxiety, frustration and jealousy keeps on growing. I don't know how to tackle it. Especially now that we're planning to buy a house of our own, get the kids to live with us and try to be one family. Its getting too difficult for me to stay since I haven't conquered my issues yet.
My family doesn't like her at all. They keep on saying why be with a woman with a LOT of baggage when i'm single and can date a woman my age. I've tried splitting up with her but every time I try, I just can't follow through. My parents keep on pairing me with other girls my age but I would just refuse.
what do you think? any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.
Answer by LAmanATplay
Just be honest in your communication, and also as polite as can be! That's the key!
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